The vexation of a fool is known at once,
but the prudent ignores an insult.
~ Proverbs 12:16, ESV ~
A mindful and spiritual recovery moves us away from our sense of self-importance. This is because it is our greatest threat to living out our authentic sense of being. Carlos Castaneda shares this insight: Our self-importance requires that we spend most of our lives offended by someone. How much wasted time and energy is it to be easily offended and angered by our sense of being offended?
By being offended, we become irritated, angry, and resentful toward the one causing an offense. Whether or not we are able to justify reasons for being offended, does it really matter? Or, are we more protective of our ego and false self where our self-importance demands a sense of justice? If we are emotionally reactive, we are wasting our own time and energy by puffing ourselves up.
When we puff ourselves up, we are revealing our own foolishness that is within our own self-righteousness. This self-righteousness leads us away from our spiritual perception and outlook. And, it diminishes our strength.
We will always find something that may cause us to be offended. However, a prudent and wise person will not respond out of sheer emotion and self-righteous indignation. Instead, we ignore the insult – whether unintentional or intentional. Instead of revealing ourselves to be foolish, we are prudent in that we have insight. For, we ourselves have caused offense in words and deeds. Whether our causation was unintentional or intentional.
Therefore, it is better to let go of our self-righteous and accept the reality that we are just as imperfect as others. What we are focused on is gaining greater spiritual insight to be better individuals. By accepting imperfections in ourselves and others, we will have moved ourselves from emotional reaction. Instead, we show stalwart wisdom.
Today, let us accept the imperfections of others instead of our need to be right.