What causes quarrels and what causes fights among you? Is it not this, that your passions are at war within you?
~ James 4:1, ESV ~
Part of our recovery and spiritual growth is learning to navigate conflicts that arise within our relationships. Some of us may have been brought up in an environment where we seen a lot of pain, anger, and contention. Many of us may have learned to always be pleasing and agreeable, regardless how we may have felt. Others may have taken personal offense when someone disagreed with us.
The vitality and excitement in our relationships may be choked out if we are too intent on avoiding conflicts. Nothing is capable of being resolved if we attempt to smooth everything over. Differences between individuals do not simply vanish. if we do not bring out our differences, they may fester into bitter fruit of resentment. This creates a silent tension, or cause us to become bored with those relationships. If we are willing to express our own thoughts and feelings, we are able to learn how to resolve those disagreements in a spirit of love and charity. We learn to appreciate other people for their differences, as well as shared similarities.
Today, let us be more open about our differences with one another, not as a way of quarreling, but as a way of letting other’s know you better.