A wise man is full of strength,
and a man of knowledge enhances his might,
for by wise guidance you can wage your war,
and in abundance of counselors there is victory.
~ Proverbs 24:5-6, ESV ~
What war are you waging in an attempt to claim victory? In our culture, we have this conversation about toxic masculinity along with the emasculation of men. Yet, we still view ourselves as being tough and having sexual prowess, and not showing any vulnerability when it comes to emotions. Our life in recovery is a realization of what true toxic masculinity and femininity is. These myths and silly immature behaviors, even though they are seemingly repeated throughout media venues, are just that – silly, immature, and childish myths.
The impact on us is hearing, repeatedly, that the way to live is not through immature and false social standards. We come to no longer admire brute strength born out of immature and childish beliefs. We no longer admire weekend conquests and stories of domination over other people. We have exposed ourselves to those things that do not empower true spiritual growth and enlightenment. Instead, true courage rests in coming to know who we are through Jesus Christ.
Knowing who we are, through Jesus Christ, connects us to a higher principle truth and depth of love where we allow ourselves to love and to embrace the pain of life. We become more than conquerors through Christ (Romans 8:37). And, what is it that we become more than conquerors over? Our present attitudes, beliefs, and values and insecurities we may have. Through wisdom and counsel, we are able to lay to rest our old and immature self and rise up in newness of life through Christ.
Today, let us show gratitude in knowing that how we share emotional vulnerability helps us connect and cultivate genuine relationships with those whom we love.